If you have a goal, behave like you do.
No matter what your goal is, there's a behaviour that must be demonstrated to go along with it.
I don't think we'd have trouble agreeing on the fact that goals are important; and I'm equally certain that we can agree that the best goals are goals that can be obtained. In order to achieve our goals, we need to devise a plan of action and align our actions with that plan.
In the health and fitness world it's common to meet people that establish goals to get fit and lose weight. Having met so many individuals full of great intentions, it's always preferable to see them move toward actualizing their plan without too much frustration.
No matter what your goal is, there's a behaviour that must be demonstrated to go along with it.
I don't think we'd have trouble agreeing on the fact that goals are important; and I'm equally certain that we can agree that the best goals are goals that can be obtained. In order to achieve our goals, we need to devise a plan of action and align our actions with that plan.
In the health and fitness world it's common to meet people that establish goals to get fit and lose weight. Having met so many individuals full of great intentions, it's always preferable to see them move toward actualizing their plan without too much frustration.
Frustration is inevitable when one sets out to change their life. Knowing this, we need to be attentive to the things that create additional conflict. One of the most common causes of conflict and frustration in trying to attain fitness goals is when we're not willing to make the sacrifices that are required for that goal to which we have committed ourselves. The frustration is due to the fact that you have this" goal" that you can never attain because you've somehow convinced yourself that the required behaviour is an option!
Let's take for example, someone who would like to lose weight. They affirm this desire to themselves. The goal to lose weight is set in motion, yet they can't resist sweets and give in every time temptation sets in. When it's brought to their attention, their response is that," it's too good to pass up." A common reaction is," I've gotta live too." This is indicative that the individual is not ready to dedicate what is required for that particular goal. Like it or not, every goal has it's specific required sacrifices, and there's no way it can be attained by skirting around what's required.
It's so much better psychologically to pick another goal; one that you can align your behaviour with, with more certainty that you can stay on track. Maybe just deciding to make better choices each day regarding nutrition or just trying to be more physically active can be a much better start. One thing is certain; subjecting oneself to constantly fail at the same goal, eventually erodes the belief that you can change.
It seems that we become so frustrated with our present circumstance that we just want it to change now. This type of frustration can cause us to focus too much on the end result- which can be quite overwhelming- forgetting that it's the day to day choices that will eventually get us there.
Let's take for example, someone who would like to lose weight. They affirm this desire to themselves. The goal to lose weight is set in motion, yet they can't resist sweets and give in every time temptation sets in. When it's brought to their attention, their response is that," it's too good to pass up." A common reaction is," I've gotta live too." This is indicative that the individual is not ready to dedicate what is required for that particular goal. Like it or not, every goal has it's specific required sacrifices, and there's no way it can be attained by skirting around what's required.
It's so much better psychologically to pick another goal; one that you can align your behaviour with, with more certainty that you can stay on track. Maybe just deciding to make better choices each day regarding nutrition or just trying to be more physically active can be a much better start. One thing is certain; subjecting oneself to constantly fail at the same goal, eventually erodes the belief that you can change.
It seems that we become so frustrated with our present circumstance that we just want it to change now. This type of frustration can cause us to focus too much on the end result- which can be quite overwhelming- forgetting that it's the day to day choices that will eventually get us there.
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