Giving Each Other Space

A woman works at a desk with a laptop and a cup of coffee

As part of the social distancing we should all be doing during this pandemic, we need to stay at least 6 feet away from others when we’re out. Now that all three members of my immediate family are home, we’re also aware of the need to provide each other some space within the house.

We’re very lucky to be together, to be healthy, and to have a larger than average house. We have a two-story with a very open-concept main floor, plus three bedrooms and two baths upstairs. In addition, because we live in Saskatchewan, we have a basement, which in our case is finished. There’s a bedroom, bathroom, and main space where we have our gym equipment. Needless to say we have room to get away from each other.

My wife’s domain is the kitchen where she’s been busy cooking up big feeds of pasta sauce and chilli, and has claimed the upstairs spare bedroom if she wants to be alone. Our daughter has her own room and when she wants to be social joins us in either the kitchen area or living room. When not spending time with my family, I’m frequently in the basement either working or working out. 

I’ve set up my home office in the bedroom down there, and it’s a pretty sweet set-up.  When I’m at work at the university I get up and go for a walk around the ground floor of the Library and do a longer walk at lunch. While I can’t go for walks around the Library, I have a treadmill right outside my office, plus a private bathroom.  

I’m also keeping standard work hours and with my move from working at the dining room table last week to the basement, I’ve created the ability to distance myself from my work. When I leave that room, I leave work, but when I’m in there my family knows that I’m working.

While we’re giving each other needed space, we’re also making sure that we intentionally connect with each other. We have meals together, we play games together, we watch movies together, we talk about fun things, and we talk about what’s going on in the world. 

We take time apart, but also time to together. Both of these are ways we support each other. Find ways to do these things in the space you have, even if the coming together is with friends, family, and colleagues virtually. 

Even as we give each other space, now is when we all need to come together.

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