Wow, two posts in one week. I’m feeling inspired today so you here you go.
I had a Skype call this morning with two amazingly supportive women / friends / colleagues regarding an upcoming keynote that I’m giving. As part of that talk I’m be going through the things we’ve gotten right and the lessons we’ve learned at our university regarding the initiative I lead. During our chat at least one of them commented about the fact that I have accomplished a lot around this initiative during the past few years. Even though I’m the one who outlined the talk and am building the slides for it, it wasn’t until they said that that it occurred to me that, “hell yeah, I’ve gotten a lot done.”
I know that might sound weird or egotistical, but you need to remember that my confidence has taken a real beating the past year, and it was never all that high to begin with.
The timing of the comment was also perfect because I was already planning to write this particular post. Last week, my therapist and I were talking about confidence and she gave me the assignment to write down at least one thing every day that I accomplished that day that spoke to my abilities / strength. Ideally, she wanted me to write down three things, but if I was struggling with it, starting with one would do.
I have a section in my planner where I write down my “wins / things that made me happy” and my “lessons / challenges”. For this assignment I’m just making sure that I note what ability of mine would go with at least one of the “wins” that I note. She said it doesn’t have to be a big thing. Small wins are important too. I’m trying to remember to do this every day, but honestly I’m sometimes I’m sitting up in bed, half asleep, when I get to this.
On this same line of thinking, is an activity that Rachel Hollis talks about in her latest book Girl, Stop Apologizing. I mentioned in my post yesterday that I was reading this book, so you’re going to have to deal with me sharing some of the great stuff I’m reading.
By the way, I’m just over half way through this book and I’m already to shout from the rooftop that every woman needs to read this book!
Back to the activity she describes in the book. Early on in the book she describes insecurities that came from starting and running a business without any formal training in how to do that. She writes:
“For me, getting past this limiting belief in myself as an entrepreneur came with acknowledging all the thing I had done instead of focusing on the things I hadn’t. There’s a great exercise for this I learned years ago that I think might be helpful for you if you’re doubting whether you can do something. Write a letter to yourself from yourself. More specifically, write from your tenacity, from the part of you that never gave up, from the exact opposite place of your fear. Write from your self-assurance. Write from your heart and your gut and the piece of you who always gets what she sets her mind to.”Rachel Hollis – Girl, Stop Apologizing, page 36
And then, she goes on to say:
“Sis, the problem isn’t that you aren’t accomplished; the problem is that you don’t give yourself any credit for the things you have done.”Rachel Hollis – Girl, Stop Apologizing, page 36
I swear that if I wasn’t on the bus when I read that part, I might very well have stood up and yelled “Amen!”
Oh, I am so writing that letter. And so should you.